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<\/p>\nThere is a kind of therapy that gently invites you to pause.
To breathe.
And to remember \u2013 you are here. And that is enough.<\/p>\n
\u201cCotton Candy\u201d \u00a0is a series of soft thoughts and reflections from the world of psychotherapy.
They are small, gentle, and true.
Meant for those who are searching for themselves \u2013 not through suffering, but through presence.<\/p>\n
Welcome to Volume 1.
Author: Svetlana Vukovi\u0107<\/p>\n
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From the upcoming book: *How You Communicate Is How You Live* This excerpt is part of my book-in-progress \u2013 In this book, I explore how our tone, silence, words, and presence shape not only our relationships \u2013 but the very quality of our lives.<\/p>\n The book will soon be available for download on this site, in English, Serbian, and French.<\/p>\n Until then, here is a chapter that speaks to something we\u2019ve all felt \u2013 the fragile space between distance and connection, in the middle of everyday conversations.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n A Small Guide to Difficult Conversations (Arguments and Misunderstandings) Maybe you\u2019ve had a similar experience. Maybe you\u2019ve felt how a conversation, instead of bringing closeness, only deepens the loneliness. How neither you nor your partner truly feel heard or seen \u2013 because each is waiting for their part to be acknowledged, forgetting to see the other.<\/p>\n From this moment, the scene can unfold in two directions.<\/p>\n In the first, silence continues \u2013 not as a space of connection, but as a wall. After lunch, he scrolls through his phone, laughing alone at clips. She goes to another room and quietly vents to a friend. Each remains with their own sense of injustice, misunderstanding, and solitude. A weekend that could have been an opportunity for connection becomes a quiet struggle for personal validation.<\/p>\n In the second, after a moment of silence, she looks at him and with a gentle smile says: In every encounter, we have a choice. Not to be perfect. But to be present enough to recognize when a conversation starts drifting into conflict. When one of the two realizes that this path won\u2019t lead to anything good and decides to \u201clower the ball,\u201d to step away from the fight \u2013 everything changes. The body relaxes, the gaze softens, and the space between them becomes lighter, more breathable. Not because someone won, but because preserving the relationship became more important than proving a point.<\/p>\n Svetlana Vukovi\u0107, Gestalt Psychotherapist & Supervisor<\/em><\/p>\n Author of the upcoming book “How You Communicate Is How You Live”<\/em><\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" There is a kind of therapy that gently invites you to pause.To breathe.And to remember \u2013 you are here. And that is enough. \u201cCotton Candy\u201d \u00a0is a series of soft thoughts and reflections from the world of psychotherapy.They are small, gentle, and true.Meant for those who are searching for themselves \u2013 not through suffering, but through presence. Welcome to Volume 1.Author: Svetlana Vukovi\u0107 From the upcoming book: *How You Communicate Is How You Live* by Svetlana Vukovi\u0107 This excerpt is part of my book-in-progress \u2013 How You Communicate Is How You Live: A Practicum for Everyday Clarity.* In this book, I explore how our tone, silence, words, and presence shape not only our relationships \u2013 but the very quality of our lives. The book will soon be available for download on this site, in English, Serbian, and French. Until then, here is a chapter that speaks to something we\u2019ve all felt \u2013 the fragile space between distance and connection, in the middle of everyday conversations. A Small Guide to Difficult Conversations (Arguments and Misunderstandings) Saturday afternoon, lunchtime. She\u2019s setting the table, exhausted, feeling a burning in her chest: \u201cCan\u2019t you at least put the plates on the table? I went to the market, cooked, cleaned the house, and you just walked in from tennis asking if lunch is ready!\u201d He, smiling, not noticing the weight in her voice, replies: \u201cOh, you\u2019re nagging again. Didn\u2019t you hear me say I beat Rade 3\u20130? It was great, and then we had a beer in the shade.\u201d She angrily slams the plates on the table. He leans back, talking about the match. Each is lost in their own thoughts. Though sitting at the same table, they\u2019re far from each other. On the verge \u2013 either of a fight, or of connection. Maybe you\u2019ve had a similar experience. Maybe you\u2019ve felt how a conversation, instead of bringing closeness, only deepens the loneliness. How neither you nor your partner truly feel heard or seen \u2013 because each is waiting for their part to be acknowledged, forgetting to see the other. From this moment, the scene can unfold in two directions. In the first, silence continues \u2013 not as a space of connection, but as a wall. After lunch, he scrolls through his phone, laughing alone at clips. She goes to another room and quietly vents to a friend. Each remains with their own sense of injustice, misunderstanding, and solitude. A weekend that could have been an opportunity for connection becomes a quiet struggle for personal validation. In the second, after a moment of silence, she looks at him and with a gentle smile says: \u201cCome on, tell me how Rade lost today \u2013 he usually beats you. I\u2019m all ears.\u201d He looks at her, sensing her gesture, lowers his pride, smiles and says: \u201cSorry. I was a bit selfish today. After a hard week at work, all I wanted was to escape. Thank you for the lovely lunch and the peace you gave me. And about Rade\u2026 well, he had a leg injury, otherwise I\u2019d never have beaten him.\u201d They both laugh, their eyes meet. The atmosphere changes. Instead of a wall, there\u2019s a bridge. They continue lunch in a gentle exchange, laughing together, making small plans for the rest of the weekend \u2013 together, present for one another. In every encounter, we have a choice. Not to be perfect. But to be present enough to recognize when a conversation starts drifting into conflict. When one of the two realizes that this path won\u2019t lead to anything good and decides to \u201clower the ball,\u201d to step away from the fight \u2013 everything changes. The body relaxes, the gaze softens, and the space between them becomes lighter, more breathable. Not because someone won, but because preserving the relationship became more important than proving a point. Svetlana Vukovi\u0107, Gestalt Psychotherapist & Supervisor Author of the upcoming book “How You Communicate Is How You Live” \u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-176","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"yoast_head":"\n
\n<\/strong>by Svetlana Vukovi\u0107<\/em><\/p>\n
\nHow You Communicate Is How You Live: A Practicum for Everyday Clarity.*<\/p>\n
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\nSaturday afternoon, lunchtime. She\u2019s setting the table, exhausted, feeling a burning in her chest:
\n\u201cCan\u2019t you at least put the plates on the table? I went to the market, cooked, cleaned the house, and you just walked in from tennis asking if lunch is ready!\u201d
\nHe, smiling, not noticing the weight in her voice, replies:
\n\u201cOh, you\u2019re nagging again. Didn\u2019t you hear me say I beat Rade 3\u20130? It was great, and then we had a beer in the shade.\u201d
\nShe angrily slams the plates on the table. He leans back, talking about the match. Each is lost in their own thoughts. Though sitting at the same table, they\u2019re far from each other. On the verge \u2013 either of a fight, or of connection.<\/p>\n
\n\u201cCome on, tell me how Rade lost today \u2013 he usually beats you. I\u2019m all ears.\u201d
\nHe looks at her, sensing her gesture, lowers his pride, smiles and says:
\n\u201cSorry. I was a bit selfish today. After a hard week at work, all I wanted was to escape. Thank you for the lovely lunch and the peace you gave me. And about Rade\u2026 well, he had a leg injury, otherwise I\u2019d never have beaten him.\u201d
\nThey both laugh, their eyes meet. The atmosphere changes. Instead of a wall, there\u2019s a bridge. They continue lunch in a gentle exchange, laughing together, making small plans for the rest of the weekend \u2013 together, present for one another.<\/p>\n